Comments on: D&C on Friday

By: alyssa

alyssa — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:33:57 +0000

hi, this is my first time at your blog (i came over from i-can’t-whistle, mekate is my oldest friend)

i am so sorry for your losses.

i wanted to say, since we’re both in brooklyn, that my particular therapist is a specialist in fertility, donor eggs, yadda yadda. she has an office in park slope as well as in the flatiron, and is on the board of the american fertility association. it’s not impossible that the card your doctor gave you was hers. she’s had plenty of losses, which is what made her focus on this. (i don’t see her for this as i have a cat and no husband, so she is more of my “life coach”)

if you want the name, shoot me an email. i promise you i am not a sociopath and if you’re concerned about that–as i would be–you can google me.
best,
alyssa

By: Lisa

Lisa — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:20:02 +0000

I am so sorry. I am so glad that you can have the D&C on Friday. I just wish that there was more I can say. Is there more that I can do or say???? I hope you do not feel alone or isolated…

I know that one of my goals is making it out of this shit psychologically intact…physically – who knows what these drugs have done to me or will do to me, the extra weight, the melasma, etc. physically, I am probably shot for a few years. BUT I want to be able to function emotionally – so I hear you. I had counseling in the past for issues not related to IF and it really, really helped me.

Sorry if this is a stupid question, but what does the doc say, if anything, or what do you think about using donor sperm? Not that it worked any fucking miracle for me the first time…but our case was definitely shitty sperm, possibly (in my opinion, not my REs) shitty eggs – at least at this point, if we try donor sperm naturally for 12 iuis we might hit a good egg and maybe spend 15k. Just a thought that you have probably had already.

((HUGS)) and please feel free to email me or use my number – any time, day or night.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 23:27:26 +0000

Ugh. I hear you on wanting to just move the fuck on. You are in my thoughts.

By: Mo

Mo — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 21:20:04 +0000

Susan,

I’m glad you can get the procedure done on Friday, but god I wish you didn’t need it. Thinking of you.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:16:17 +0000

Susan…I’m sad you are having to go through this again. But I am glad what you hoped (no uterine issues & a quick D&C) is also coming true. If there is any solice, I hope you have or will find it soon.

Hugs to you my bloggie friend, and hopes for a better day.

~nicole

By: musicmakermomma

musicmakermomma — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:03:47 +0000

So sorry. I’d go for the testing – maybe it will confirm (or not) whether to go to DE. Obviously not a 100% sure thing either, sorry to say. But I am glad they were able to schedule you in so soon, hoping for a pain-free recovery.

You might make the shrink appt, it may take a bit to get in; and you can always cancel if you’re not feeling up to it. Just a thought, thinking of you.

By: Mermaid

Mermaid — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 16:57:08 +0000

Giant hugs.

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 15:29:45 +0000

Oh Susan, I am glad you know what is going on but I am so sad for your news.
So glad your D&C is soon and hope that you have some answers after that about what happened.

I have (much) older eggs too– so I SO get that. I got so tired of hearing about it. Yes I know I know I KNOW I KNOW shut up please and give me something that I can DO something about.
I am all for PDG if you have access to it. I was wanting to do that my next round but also totally unsure how in the hell we would pay for it. BUT I honor the information it can give, recognizing the limitations–

And I can agree with this: yes this totally sucks. and it IS a terribly tough break. And I simply hate it for you.
Sending Love as if it were a miraculous healing balm.
Wish it were.

Kate