7w6d – ulp
Yesterday was pretty brutal. Much nausea. Much Tiredness bordering on stupifying exhaustion. I pretty much crawled between the computer and the bed for half-hour doses of each. Fortunately, I am the companion of a whippet, who stayed in bed all day long so that I wouldn’t feel bad about my infirmity. She’s swell like that. A real pal.
Ahem. I have no idea how I’m going to survive today at work, since the badness doesn’t kick in until after lunch. At least it’s been disappearing by late afternoon, which is when the majority of my programs are. Urgh.
On a more interesting (at least to me) topic, I’ve been seriously compiling lists of baby gear. Which is somewhat odd for me since we do not, at the moment, have a room in which to put Sprog once he vacates my womb, let alone a room to be painted and cooed over and decorated. This is New York, and the house is not particularly well set up for, you know, human families. Grrrr. All of which bitching I shall save for another post, but it’s important for today’s ponderings because I don’t really understand where this urge to nest out is coming from.
And it’s not like I’m doing it wholeheartedly. Well, I’m doing the research wholeheartedly, but not the buying. I’ve been buying picture books for years. And I crocheted a baby blanket about 3 years ago. Other than that – nada. So yesterday I thought that it might be fun to, you know, go buy some cute little baby stuff – rectal thermometer, nasal aspirator, breast pads etc.
Not only did I not make it out of the house to the terrifyingly large Babies ‘R’ Us, (which, in all fairness was almost entirely due to the fact that the mere thought of being on a subway train for half an hour made me ill,) but I wasn’t even able to commit to hitting the “purchase cart” button on Amazon. I got all twitchy, at the thought of actually buying baby gear. Like the Fates might be unable to resist the irony of making me miscarry on the very day that baby gear was delivered to the house? I dunno. It was weird. I think I might need to go slowly on this one – baby steps, so to speak.
I did read today that the chances of carrying a pregnancy to term after a heartbeat’s been seen at 8 weeks go up to like 98%. Which was encouraging.
Just not encouraging enough to allow me to buy a onesie without wetting myself out of superstitious fear, I guess.
Next appointment is on Thursday, which is exciting. I feel like I ought to buy my doctor a thank you present like you do for realtors or school counselors or anyone else who guides you through one of life’s slalom courses. Is that just weird and creepy? I mean, the man’s already been “thanked” in the form of the giganto checks that I and my insurance company have regularly deposited into his bank account for the last year. It just feels weird to walk away without a gesture of personal thanks.
Anyone do anything for an RE you had a great relationship with when you graduated? Anyone think my hormones are completely whacked to even be thinking about this? Heartfelt card or letter? Sterling silver & 14K gold replica of the old city of Jerusalem? (Oh yeah, that one’s already been done. It’s in his lobby, because really, what else was he gonna do with it?) See? I mean, that’s laughable. Really goofy. Whereas I’d – of course – come up with something tasteful yet touching.
Hah.
Either that or I could just shake the man’s hand, apologize for totally screwing up their stats in my age range, and thank him for keeping me out of the way of Herr Bigshot as much as he did.
we love our RE and I think getting a gift is nice, although it seems like most people bring something when they bring the baby to visit it seems. RE ettiquette? Who knows!
I still get terrified with buying things, but as my husband says, we dont know what tomorrow ever holds, so we should do today what we feel we should do. Try not to worry about what might go wrong. It’s hard, and I say that from a lot of “wrong” experiences. But the only way to fully enjoy your baby is to focus on the joy and the happiness of that great soon-to-be’s.
I had panic attacks when I went into baby stores. I wasn’t able to buy anything baby related until about 12 weeks. Even then, I think I only bought one thing beterrn 12 and 18 weeks… it does get better though.
Well, if it was me, I would try to resist the urge to start buying a bunch of stuff until maybe 20 weeks or so. I know, it seems like forever, but it will fly by. Of course, there’s no harm in window shopping and certainly making lists! As far as the RE gift, I would wait until after the baby is born. Maybe send a nice card with a picture? I’m sure they get lots of those, but a gift might be unnecessary. I don’t know…just my opinion…I’m sure whatever you decide will be just perfect.
How funny – I just wrote about baby gear today…. I’m almost 17 weeks, and still haven’t bought anything beside books and maternity clothes. I have been window shopping, internet browsing, and reading like crazy. You should really check out the book Baby Bargains. I’m loving it – great information, incredibly helpful. I think I’m going to hold off on buying anything as long as I can – we’re going to register at BRU, and they give you a 10% completion coupon for anything left on your registry. So I’ll hold back to get the 10%. I might just get a few things on Red Envelope, though… they have the cutest keepsake type things for babies…
I had a hard time buying stuff, too, and even registering for anything. I put it off until about 19 weeks, but then was forced to by the deadline to mail the baby shower invitations. It just felt like I was tempting fate too much. But then I was put on restricted activity at 20 weeks and now I can’t do anything. That makes me wish I’d started sooner and I also feel like I didn’t enjoy being pregnant as much as I could have. This will be our one and only pregnancy (triplets are enough for us) and I feel like I let a lot of it just slip by because I was afraid.
Please don’t let that happen to you. In between the nausea and napping, please enjoy this pregnancy as much as you possibly can.
S – hope you are making it through the day. As for buying stuff – I cannot even imagine. Wow. If my old RE would have gotten me knocked up successfully, I was going to buy her a pen from Tiffany’s. Now – not sure what I will get Dr. 100% but if he called this right, there is not enough in the world that I could get him for giving me hope again.
I second the Baby Bargains rec! It is my bible. I may have been living under a rock, but I just discovered Amazon’s Universal registry and it rocks my socks in a major way! Not only can you register for all things on Amazon, but you get a nifty little “Add to registry” button in your tool bar that allows you to add things from any website in the world. How cool is that???
I still want to send my RE something, but am at a loss…
Hey Sprog – we were on a strict shopping diet of books and puppets till last week. I bought clothes, and lots of them. At 22 weeks. I still have no other baby gear. Am starting to get nervous. Let me know what looks interesting to you. I have spent so long ignoring baby stuff I have no idea what to get for the Bubble.
Oh – and once he gets here I figure I’ll send something to the RE. Maybe something for the office to share?
I did not buy a thing (or allow presents) until 28 weeks (although I did line up in my mind what I wanted to get). Granted, I had a rough and perilous pregnancy and just didn’t want to have to pick up those particular kinds of pieces had something tragic happened.
As for a gift for your RE, I knew that mine liked wine but since we’re not wine drinkers I didn’t want to misstep there. I opted for a bottle of Cristal (which he’d never had and enjoyed with his wife when they celebrated their anniversary).