Comments on: 5w3d – Looking for Problems in all the Predictable Places.

By: Michele

Michele — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 18:48:08 +0000

Isnt it strange, how “long” we feel pregnant in the beginning? I’m convinced that because we know so early and know the ins and outs so well, it does “lengthen” the beginning of our pregnancies.

By: huckle

huckle — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 23:28:04 +0000

Delurking – We are in the trenches together on this one – coincidentally, I conceived on the same day you did (email if you are interested in my IF resume etc). After a couple of miscarriages, this part of pregnancy takes forever. I get a scan around 7 weeks. Keeping busy is helping, so that the time passes unnoticed.

By: mekate

mekate — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:43:04 +0000

thinking of you every 3.2 nanoseconds.

xox
Kate

By: Mina

Mina — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 07:58:03 +0000

For very real. Please put the cuttlefish out of my misery, screaming is soooo last year. This year is smiles and giddy and zen. Or don’t you know that?
Now, come on with the good news, will ya?! We’re all waiting here…

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 23:36:05 +0000

Gah – it is so hard and time is so slow. I echo what has been said about the times before an appt – esp – an u/s. I have one tomorrow as well – and I am nervous, envisioning a cord accident, a placental abruption and a host of other unnameable things, scenarios that only a mind that has been scarred and ripped apart can imagine – I will never say that I understand what someone else is going through – but I can relate to the pre-u/s nerves and scenarios and fears and terrors. But I can also relate to the everything looked fine on the u/s two days ago but what do I feel like everything is not fine why am I envisioning that it has ended.

It is hard and at least for me, the first trimester LASTED FOREVER. FOREVER. AND THEN A FEW MORE YEARS. AND THEN ANOTHER MILLENNIA.

I will be thinking of you as I get my u/s tomorrow and hoping that you get fabulous amazing baby news.

By: Good Egg Hunting

Good Egg Hunting — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:59:07 +0000

You are so normal — you feel this way because emotions ebb and flow during pregnancy, particularly after going through what you’ve been through. You are going to feel calm sometimes and like a freaking out crazy person at others. And that doesn’t mean that you won’t go back to the calm — you can spend a little time in crazy town and still find your way home. And the previous commenters are all totally right — anytime you are right before a test or procedure will be an anxiety producer. Sometimes I’ve wished I could just skip medical appointments as that seems to be what brings out the most anxiety. But try not to think of the whole 30-some-odd weeks stretching before you, because it won’t always be this way. In fact, you’re doing the hardest work now…these times before early ultrasounds are really challenging, but it gets easier with each reassurance you get and when you start feeling the baby move it is a huge shift. Hang in there!

By: Kait Drace

Kait Drace — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:42:07 +0000

I know exactly how you feel about feeling so pregnant, and wanting to be obviously pregnant, and yet not being anywhere near that. I have to say, I feel like the first trimester is one big, giant, horrible joke, especially to those who have experienced IF or pregnancy loss. I felt so sick for my first trimester and I thought about (and worried about) my fledgling pregnancy every second, but no one else knew and I couldn’t share my thoughts with anyone besides my therapist. It totally took over my life but no one knew about it but me. And I was so scared to lose it the whole time. It was horrible. I just want you to know that I understand how hard the beginning weeks of a pregnancy are, especially when you know what it feels like to lose one. If you ever need to commiserate, just drop me a line.

By: Shelly Galvin (Attain Fertility)

Shelly Galvin (Attain Fertility) — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 22:01:08 +0000

I remember it like it was yesterday. Terrified to be happy and analyzing every little body function and twinge. Sending good (peaceful) thoughts your way!

By: IF Optimist (Traci)

IF Optimist (Traci) — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 19:21:35 +0000

Every time I am about to go to a doctor’s appointment I get nervous and edgy. MrBeep has to endure much paranoid woman crazytalk, he always gives me an extra good cuddle the night before. Kate is right. Every day seems to go by so slowly. I want this for you so very much. Hoping hoping hoping for a great appointment tomorrow.

By: Myndi

Myndi — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 19:07:17 +0000

Haven’t yet had to do the whole pregnancy after loss, scared but trying to be hopeful thing, but I am very much a plan for the worst, hope for the best yet still somewhat cynical worry wart so…I imagine days like this are totally normal(and I’m going to need someone to scrape me up off the pavement every day, I just know it!). You are doing so much better than I could ever imagine I would be. Kudos in spades!

And there are some smart commenters here…waiting for that u/s, especially the first one…that would tear down the most rainbowy of IF’ers. Can’t wait to hear the good news tomorrow!