Comments on: Rambling

By: Shawna

Shawna — Mon, 17 May 2010 02:14:18 +0000

Hi Susan,

I can add a little from the opposite side. My mother is Irish, father is American Indian. I have dark hair and dark eyes, yet I gave birth to two red haired girls with blue/green eyes. People have said, in front of the kids, “Wow, she doesn’t look anything like you. Is she adopted?” Not once, not twice… enough times to make me wonder about common sense and it’s extinction.

When the youngest was born, who has dark hair and dark eyes, and people started commenting on how much she looks like me, I saw the hurt in the littlest red-haired child’s eyes. I started saying, “No. She looks just like herself.”

It’s not a perfect solution, but it worked for me.

By: It is what it is

It is what it is — Sat, 15 May 2010 19:14:22 +0000

How I have MISSED you! Oh, the amount of sick that we have gone through in the last month has left me positively exhausted. Not only was I cleaning up copious amounts of vomit and diarrhea (my son’s) and nursing back to back ear infections (my son’s) brought on by a chest cold (my son’s) and then a fever of unknown origina (my son’s) but I have literally coughed up a lung as well as tended to the other sickee among us (my husband).

Please g-d, knock wood, and throw salt over my shoulder, it is all finally behind us. I have a lot of catching up to do here and elsewhere so forgive me if I respond to not so recent blog posts as it is all news to me.

And, through all this sick, I’ve racked up enough of my own posts that I hope to update soon. In a nutshell, at almost 44 (my birthday is next week), maybe I really and truly am meant to be a mother to an only child.

By: SouthernGal

SouthernGal — Fri, 14 May 2010 18:12:35 +0000

I’m a lurker (who loves your style) and I’m not an infertile, so I really have not much room to comment, but…and I truly do not intend to minimize things – my brother and his wife have four adopted children. Three are of different races than we are, but the fourth – a boy – is not. And, he looks so much like MY son (a young adult) at every stage of his life that it is totally uncanny for us all. And, even with not one single bit of DNA from my brother, he has the exact same mannerisms, attitudes, tendencies that my brother (and, to a certain extent, my son) has. Please don’t take offense at my commenting on a subject I have no right to (especially as a person you don’t “know”) but I thought it was worth pointing out…

By: Marissa

Marissa — Thu, 13 May 2010 21:06:41 +0000

I don’t want to scare you but you may want to ask for a prescription to reduce your stomach acid. I had mild-moderate heartburn during my pregnancy (after long fertility struggle) and had a life threatening perforated ulcer when my sweet boy was 9 days old. Thankfully I made it fine and it was caught in the nick of time (they were assuming it was post partum related). I just know if it would have happened when pregnant the odds of us both surviving were low. I hate to tell scary stories to pregnant women but I really felt I should mention it. Maybe you could bring it up at your next OB appt.

By: Michele

Michele — Thu, 13 May 2010 19:33:55 +0000

I’m genetically nothing to my parents and I still hear how we look alike, how Bobby and Maya look like them, etc. Somewhere down the line, we are all interconnected and related. Try not to let “he has your eyes” bother you, dear… In a way he does… He sees the world through the eyes you’ve gestated and shown him.

I wish I had a slimmer blog roll sometimes! I swear; I’m never caught up!

By: PJ

PJ — Thu, 13 May 2010 19:25:39 +0000

OK, check out my lastest post and tell me what you think of the Lovenox/Heparin thing? Did you know about all of that? Geeezzz!

By: Hillary

Hillary — Thu, 13 May 2010 18:54:42 +0000

Ok, I know that since I’m not pregnant and not a mom, my opinion is probably not worth that much. However, I’ve seen people around my adopt children who interestingly enough turn out looking and acting exactly like their adoptive parents. So much so that it’s hard to remember they aren’t biologically related. So I think Thor may very well inherit your hobbit feet!

By: Carla

Carla — Thu, 13 May 2010 17:14:58 +0000

I’m with Sarah, the people I know that have adopted have ended up with kids that resemble them. Wierd. Oh and I love that saying too.
I am doing a happy dance in my seat about the nighmare boss possibly? probably? getting let go too. Couldn’t happen to a more deserving person. Now, if I could only get rid of my own nightmare boss and realm of pain…

By: Gwen

Gwen — Thu, 13 May 2010 17:12:50 +0000

If people not in the know comment about his resembling you, I’d just say “Thank you” and leave it at that. If they don’t already know the saga, there’s no reason for them to have to know.

By: mekate

mekate — Thu, 13 May 2010 15:23:45 +0000

thinking of you!
xoxxo
Kate