Comments on: Exhaustion. (And a tiny bit of fear.) http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/ Trying to get -and stay- sprogged-up since 2007 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:38:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Betty M http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-7009 Betty M Fri, 23 Jul 2010 20:30:27 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-7009 Labour can be tough and it certainly hurts but you honestly do forget the pain. Not that you forget that you had the pain but more what exactly it felt like. And there is no shame in an epidural just like there are no extra points in the motherhood stakes for not having one. You do what you have to. Labour can be tough and it certainly hurts but you honestly do forget the pain. Not that you forget that you had the pain but more what exactly it felt like. And there is no shame in an epidural just like there are no extra points in the motherhood stakes for not having one. You do what you have to.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6998 Lisa Thu, 22 Jul 2010 00:05:14 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6998 I felt so horrible when I complained about the horrors of pregnancy - after all, we worked so hard and my whole world was wrapped up in achieving it - but it is hard. So hard. I am not going to tell you it is worth it - you know that - but I will tell you to vent away - it helps me. I feel the same way about motherhood - it is the most awesome thing I have ever experienced and these two are the most fascinating people to ever exist - but it is hard - one of my colleagues described it as the trifecta of guilt - shitty mom, shitty wife, shitty attorney. I honestly only feel like a shitty wife and a shitty attorney - I have to say that the mothering part is the best and I crave it and them and live to mother them... I had lunch with two pregnant friends and was telling them about the horrors of post-partum - and one of my favorite parts was the ice pack maxi pad - yes, a giant maxi pad that is actually an ice pack...tuck's...cortisone cream...and I was like, "wait, this is supposed to be magical..." jut to get a laugh out of them - and it was still magical, even when I was wearing the ice pack maxi pad, the tuck's and the cortisone cream! I am so happy that you get to experience your own magic! I felt so horrible when I complained about the horrors of pregnancy – after all, we worked so hard and my whole world was wrapped up in achieving it – but it is hard. So hard. I am not going to tell you it is worth it – you know that – but I will tell you to vent away – it helps me.

I feel the same way about motherhood – it is the most awesome thing I have ever experienced and these two are the most fascinating people to ever exist – but it is hard – one of my colleagues described it as the trifecta of guilt – shitty mom, shitty wife, shitty attorney. I honestly only feel like a shitty wife and a shitty attorney – I have to say that the mothering part is the best and I crave it and them and live to mother them…

I had lunch with two pregnant friends and was telling them about the horrors of post-partum – and one of my favorite parts was the ice pack maxi pad – yes, a giant maxi pad that is actually an ice pack…tuck’s…cortisone cream…and I was like, “wait, this is supposed to be magical…” jut to get a laugh out of them – and it was still magical, even when I was wearing the ice pack maxi pad, the tuck’s and the cortisone cream! I am so happy that you get to experience your own magic!

]]> By: Michelle http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6997 Michelle Wed, 21 Jul 2010 22:34:14 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6997 http://www.amazon.com/Ina-Mays-Guide-Childbirth-Gaskin/dp/0553381156/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1279751364&sr=8-1 I read Ida May's Guide to Childbirth in my first trimester with my first child. I was on a plane flying cross country and by the time we landed I went from "Just Put Me Under And Wake Me When It's Over" frightened to "I Am Woman Hear Me Roar And Watch Me Give Birth Naturally!!" It is an incredibly powerful book that is empowering. I'll be honest and upfront and admit that pregnancy ended in an emergency c-section with a stuck ten pound baby. As everyone said it isn't the delivery that ultimately matters, it's the take home baby that matters. They were right. http://www.amazon.com/Ina-Mays-Guide-Childbirth-Gaskin/dp/0553381156/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1279751364&sr=8-1

I read Ida May’s Guide to Childbirth in my first trimester with my first child. I was on a plane flying cross country and by the time we landed I went from “Just Put Me Under And Wake Me When It’s Over” frightened to “I Am Woman Hear Me Roar And Watch Me Give Birth Naturally!!” It is an incredibly powerful book that is empowering.

I’ll be honest and upfront and admit that pregnancy ended in an emergency c-section with a stuck ten pound baby. As everyone said it isn’t the delivery that ultimately matters, it’s the take home baby that matters. They were right.

]]> By: K http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6995 K Wed, 21 Jul 2010 19:55:55 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6995 Oh and I second Dora- I loved my epidural. What I hated was my OB and how things were handled there- but hopefully you won't have that problem with your awesome OB Oh and I second Dora- I loved my epidural. What I hated was my OB and how things were handled there- but hopefully you won’t have that problem with your awesome OB

]]> By: Long Time Reader First Time Commenter http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6994 Long Time Reader First Time Commenter Wed, 21 Jul 2010 19:08:35 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6994 I'm sure you've seen... http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128651136 I’m sure you’ve seen…

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=128651136

]]> By: Dora http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6993 Dora Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:31:07 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6993 It's okay to get an epidural if you want one. Contrary to all the scary stories you hear, mine went in on the first stick and worked perfectly. When it was decided that I needed a c-section, all they had to do was top it off with more medication. Afterwards, again contrary to scary stories, I had no residual aftereffects at all. Just a beautiful, healthy baby, born painlessly. I held her within 5 minutes of her arrival in the world, and was nursing her in the recovery room about a half hour later. C-section recovery was not bad at all. Recovering from the foot surgery I had 4 weeks later was much harder. It will be okay. Thor's coming soon!!! :-) It’s okay to get an epidural if you want one. Contrary to all the scary stories you hear, mine went in on the first stick and worked perfectly. When it was decided that I needed a c-section, all they had to do was top it off with more medication. Afterwards, again contrary to scary stories, I had no residual aftereffects at all. Just a beautiful, healthy baby, born painlessly. I held her within 5 minutes of her arrival in the world, and was nursing her in the recovery room about a half hour later. C-section recovery was not bad at all. Recovering from the foot surgery I had 4 weeks later was much harder.

It will be okay. Thor’s coming soon!!! :-)

]]> By: K http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6991 K Wed, 21 Jul 2010 17:02:19 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6991 Are you having a natural birthing experience (i.e. outside of the hospital)? If so, I've heard that is far better (as you know from having watched the business of being born). If not, then I shall refrain from comment except to say that the child you get at the end is worth it :) Are you having a natural birthing experience (i.e. outside of the hospital)? If so, I’ve heard that is far better (as you know from having watched the business of being born). If not, then I shall refrain from comment except to say that the child you get at the end is worth it :)

]]> By: Mina http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6989 Mina Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:07:40 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6989 I agree with this post on so many levels (a) About the NYC heat?? I live in Queens, so I know exactly what you mean. Last July it didn't even hit 90 once! It's sad that I can't wait to get to work because their A/C is super strong. (b) I am starting to get scared about labor & delivery, when before I kind of brushed it off. Just like I thought pregnancy would be a breeze once I got there. Ummm, yeah, not so much. I agree with this post on so many levels

(a) About the NYC heat?? I live in Queens, so I know exactly what you mean. Last July it didn’t even hit 90 once! It’s sad that I can’t wait to get to work because their A/C is super strong.
(b) I am starting to get scared about labor & delivery, when before I kind of brushed it off. Just like I thought pregnancy would be a breeze once I got there. Ummm, yeah, not so much.

]]> By: gwinne http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6988 gwinne Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:02:36 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6988 S, I don't think all the reading/talking in the world can prepare you adequately for what it *feels* like to be pregnant, or to give birth to a child, or raise one, for that matter. But I agree with Sarah about the doula as a way to help you through the delivery. My own story is textbook: early induction that I didn't want (when your doctor starts saying "increased risk of stillbirth" you do what she says), complete and total freakout about hospitalized birth/induction, long stalled out labor, followed by (eventual) epidural and c-section. I'm still (6 years later) angry about a lot of it, but the one thing I could have controlled better was my response to the situation. I'm sure the fact that I didn't want to give birth in that environment created a situation where I literally *couldn't* give birth in that environment. Sorry...getting longwinded. But I think at least talking to a doula about your anxieties, even if you choose not to use one, is probably a good thing going in... S, I don’t think all the reading/talking in the world can prepare you adequately for what it *feels* like to be pregnant, or to give birth to a child, or raise one, for that matter. But I agree with Sarah about the doula as a way to help you through the delivery. My own story is textbook: early induction that I didn’t want (when your doctor starts saying “increased risk of stillbirth” you do what she says), complete and total freakout about hospitalized birth/induction, long stalled out labor, followed by (eventual) epidural and c-section. I’m still (6 years later) angry about a lot of it, but the one thing I could have controlled better was my response to the situation. I’m sure the fact that I didn’t want to give birth in that environment created a situation where I literally *couldn’t* give birth in that environment. Sorry…getting longwinded. But I think at least talking to a doula about your anxieties, even if you choose not to use one, is probably a good thing going in…

]]> By: sarah http://www.sprogblogger.com/2010/07/21/exhaustion-and-a-tiny-bit-of-fear/comment-page-1/#comment-6986 sarah Wed, 21 Jul 2010 13:43:56 +0000 http://www.sprogblogger.com/?p=3563#comment-6986 Sounds like the reason a lot of people get a doula--someone whose been through it to reassure and guide you. You've been a goat doula! Sounds like the reason a lot of people get a doula–someone whose been through it to reassure and guide you. You’ve been a goat doula!

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